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Strongly agree.

@goatboy

C’mon ladies - I’ve got him pinned down…bundle in!

You know who would love the new tags? David In Sweden. Unfortunately he is still on the other place. And in Sweden.

That Brer character could probably be bought with a couple of carrots.

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I’m pretty sure the only person who found it annoying at the time was you, and he was only doing it in the end to get a rise. I think he ended up leaving because he felt he wasn’t ‘right on’ enough for this crazy feminist crowd.

I miss ohio :lou_sad:

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Is the goat having a post coital ciggy?

Never been myself,

Wow, have you been on here that long, you must have been quite the lurker early on…

Nah, we would probably boast.

Hang on - first you say I’m the only person who found it annoying. Then you say there’s a feminist crowd on here.

Then you say he was only doing it to get a rise. Yet he was the one who left who got wound up and left?

Confusing argument.

Maybe just maybe, in a forum dominated by blokes, with only two or three women, it’s just a bit insensitive going on and on about boobs in every post. And I’m hardly the sort of gal that’s scared of a joke or two…

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Some say lurk, others say gather a dossier of information…

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I’m sorry my argument was confusing. I just meant that I think he left because he got a bit exasperated with constantly being pulled up on his ‘sexism’. He started a couple of threads on what he considered a football forum, in the appropriate monkey tennis section, to lightheartedly have a bit of ‘lad bantz’ about boobies and what have you.

Now, I’m not a fan of ‘lad bantz’ personally, and I can see that it could be annoying to our female posters, but if it were me I’d just avoid those threads, rather than go on them and make someone feel a little bit like they’re a 70s throwback when he was just being a bit silly.

I might be completely wrong about why he left, by the way, in which case it’s all a bit moot, but bringing his name up just reminded me that I thought at the time it was a bit unfair. Not trying to cause offence.

Oh dear, that’s me in trouble then. Good job no-one on here knows me in RL…

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Well, I guess that’s the thing. When you have the majority viewpoint, it probably does seem unreasonable someone making a fuss over something that seems so inconsequential, and you inevitably empathise easier with the person who is closest to you. I’m sure a few others would agree with you.

But when you’re in the minority, you react to things in a different way, brush off lots of stuff so you don’t seem like you’re rocking the boat, and react to the things when it gets too much.

I like banter - but after a while, reading loads of comments about boobs becomes really tiresome. As does sifting through lots of light porn. So I made the point, not in an offensive way.

I would suggest it’s the sensisitivity around being thought of as a 70s thrownback that was the issue, not anything I actually said (I never made that accusation, I just said something along the lines of: can you quit going on about boobs all the time).

And to that I would say: man up! :lou_wink_2:

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Lou, I understand what you’re saying, honestly I do, but from my point of view it seemed that Ohio left because he felt he was being tarred as someone he didn’t see himself as being. His idea of ‘bantz’ may be your idea of ‘light porn’, and I can see that as a minority you may feel marginalised by it, but I’m just not sure it’s fair to criticise (indirectly) his sense of humour. I don’t watch Jimmy Carr because I find him tiresome and puerile, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t feel free to keep doing his thing if other people like it.

Anyway, forget about it, I apologise if I came across badly, it was a throwaway comment.

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Mighty - cheers, I appreciate that. Light porn reference was more about the context of the place at the time (ie. Tokes and Bearsy going crazy and posting lots of women in underwear all over the place), not Ohio.

I guess I’m slightly wary of criticism directed at me for going on about sexism, and blokes feeling bad for the blokes, when for the most part, I’ve been the lone regular female poster (though now, Intiniki is more regular than me) and having to stand up for myself. It’s kind of like criticising David for unfair tactics against Goliath.

I too have a tinge of sadness that Ohio left, but that he left without being able to see another’s point of view is his weakness not mine. I’m still here and constantly having to adapt to others.

Anyway, just trying to explain myself - and you come across as the opposite of badly. Ohio - come back if you’re still reading this! But I’ll still moan if your boob quota goes over 50% :lou_wink_2:

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I wonder who TheMightyOstrich is…? :lou_lol:

Outed.

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