What I find strange is that if you hear someone owns a house, or someone has bought a house, you automatically think they’ve bought it outright? I’m not sure what circles you run in, but in general that is a pretty wild assumption to make. Maybe this contributes to your unrealistic expectations - I don’t know?
I would say the majority of people find that bothersome, and there’s been various examples of that on this forum. Maybe that’s what you and your friends do, go to a pub and show off about what you’ve got - like a real life Facebook.
Everyone I know tend to be up front about failures, it’s a very British thing to rejoice in them.
Ah now hold on, SaintorSinner advised me to ask challenging questions that’ll make a partner think and that would make me stand out - to avoid appearing colourless and boring.
Nothing wrong with that, but the point is that I’m getting different advice from different people - so its pretty hard to follow it all to the letter when much of it contradicts each other. Quite a few people have told me that I ought to completely reconsider the career path I’m choosing so its pretty hard to match that up with the others telling me to grab at the first job I can!
And of course, this range of advice extends into real life too. A mate of mine yesterday told me to tell them up front that I couldn’t do St. Albans, dad was more like “well, take it and see if you can ask for a transfer”, ex-gf that I’m still in touch with said there’s no point even going for it if its not the job you really want. You guys on here generally reacted with exasperation that I would even try and swing it to a different location and generally implied that I should be grabbing the job with both hands.
It isn’t a wild assumption to make. Put down a deposit & paying the mortgage =/= owning. You didn’t clarify. It sounds like you’re really, really annoyed that you’ve been asked to clarify.
Besides, the whole implication of your original post on the subject was ‘My sister is in your generation and already owns a house with her boyfriend - and therefore it isn’t that hard for people your age’. If you were sincerely making that point as a point of encouragement, you’d almost certainly be mentioning things like the deposit sum, the fact that it was an affordable mortgage, the fact that the deposit was only a small percentage and blablabla.
Cherts, I literally don’t even have a problem with you (although it doesn’t sound like that feeling is reciprocated) but you’re not even keeping track of what your own argument is.
I think it is tho, I am back up cherts here. I have spoken to numerous human beings in my life, prob more than 20, and I don’t think any of them thinks like that.
As I say, I do like the directness and I like getting no-frills, possibly harsh and direct advice from as many sources as I can, but its clear I’ve massively pissed a fair few people off, which is a shame.
I’ll always stand up for myself in any situation - but that doesn’t mean it isn’t disappointing to see that certain posters are really starting to dislike me. I don’t think is entirely my fault (six of one/half-dozen of the other) and I do think there are certain posters who simply made their minds up about me outright from the word go - but its not constructive whatever way you look at it I guess.
Nothing wrong with that, but the point is that I’m getting different advice from different people - so its pretty hard to follow it all to the letter when much of it contradicts each other. Quite a few people have told me that I ought to completely reconsider the career path I’m choosing so its pretty hard to match that up with the others telling me to grab at the first job I can!
And of course, this range of advice extends into real life too. A mate of mine yesterday told me to tell them up front that I couldn’t do St. Albans, dad was more like “well, take it and see if you can ask for a transfer”, ex-gf that I’m still in touch with said there’s no point even going for it if its not the job you really want. @You-guys-on-here-generally-reacted-with-exasperation-that-I-would-even-try-and-swing-it-to-a-different-location-and-generally-implied-that-I-should-be-grabbing-the-job-with-both-hands.
I have empathised more than many, and sent you detailed insight by PM into one of the BIg 4 processes. I have to say that throughout this thread you have mainly (not exclusively) given the impression that you are very very keen to start a career (in accountancy) and more than that, you wanted to have the security of income, and all that brings you in terms of housing, social life, planning a future, etc etc.
Nothing wrong in any of that. But thats why so many are exasperated - me now included. You seem like you are about to be offered a position, and its in St Albans. Not St Neots, or St Johnstone, but St Albans, Hertfordshire, just outside London. Your issue was the commute and the rent but 30 seconds thought would tell you that you dont have to live in St Albans to work there and it has decent commuter links to lots of places. If you really want a job as much as you have regularly implied, then of course you should grab it. If not, what is this thread of yours all about?
You’ve been very helpful indeed Bucks and I appreciate that. Perhaps I wasn’t clear with St. Albans - I certainly wouldn’t turn it down!
I suppose the other factor I wasn’t clear on was that I’d like to take my shot with EY, Lloyds, and possibly Nationwide as well, and obviously taking the job with KS would mean I’d have to withdraw from those others which I’d probably prefer.
Don’t get me wrong, I *will* take it if its in St. Albans! It’d just be preferable if it were 1) in London and 2) starting in September so that I can use it as a fallback option and try for the others.
Now, as I say, that’s all ‘in-an-ideal-world’ scenario. I’m not *expecting* it, I don’t think I’m *entitled* to it, I’m not going to *ask* for it! I’m just saying that that would be the ideal situation. I’ll take the job if its offered in St. Albans.
Alright. Fuck it. I’ll go in tomorrow, give it 100% and say that I’m dead keen to work for the firm and I’d be more than happy with a position in St. Albans.
You dont have to withdraw from anything else if you take the KS position. Thats no different than how many people choose to change jobs or careers all the time. Yes, it might not be ideal if you accept that job and then quit early on, but it happens regularly and its ok.
