This is the transcript of what he said word for word -
Charlotte, delighted to connect (she had added him as a contact). I appreciate that this is probably horrendously politically incorrect but that is a stunning picture!!!
You definately win the prize for the best Linked in picture I have ever seen,
Always interest to understand people’s skills and how we might work togther.
Alex
Maybe it is just me but I can find no sleazy content here and no sexual innuendo. All I can see is a compliment. Should he have sent it? In this day and age probably not. When he was growing up it would not have been an issue. Should she have then reprinted the whole exchange on Twitter and publically shamed him? I really do not think so. And if she things it is wrong to objectify people based on their appearance then perhaps she needs to think twice before doing it to people that SHE finds attractive.
Weddings, yes; Facebook, go for it; Tinder definitely; random woman in a pub, take your chances; woman on footie forum, why not. Professional business context unless you know the person well and have a friendly relationship: no.
What part of that isn’t completely and utterly obvious common sense?
It is a sad world where you cannot say something nice about someone without an inference being made that you are after something else.
We obviously see this from completely different perspectives, but from where I stand you’re making an explicit appeal in support of sleazy behaviour - for all the reasons that have been aired on this thread.
There’s also something deeply solispistic about “saying something nice”. That’s not a one-way street. The person saying it can’t decide unilaterially that it’s “nice” when the person on the receiving end is creeped out by it.
Well, I’m serious, GB. There’s an inference every now and again I’m some kind of ballbreaker, in an angry rage at poor old men, but it takes someone saying something pretty offensive to piss me off. This idea that women are on their seats waiting to get in a rage at the slightest compliment from a man is completely unfounded. Everyone likes being complimented when the intentions are good. What that guy said wasn’t a compliment.
After working in the fast paced and ever changing newsprint environment for 30 years it was a massive culture shock going to work in the Criminal Justice System for 8 years with the CPS. To say it was like stepping back in time in an understatement - these people still think it is a good idea to wear wigs and gowns for heaven’s sake! Even many of the younger barristers came across as if they had been 70 all of their lives and you got the impression that it was a step too far to use a biro instead of a quill. The TV series Silk captured the world of Chambers and Courts very well. I met many crusty old judges and barristers and many crusty young ones too. The world moves on but they stay rooted in their traditions and tweeds. At the point that I left we have been trying to introduce electronic case files to the courts. I cant even begin to tell you about the trauma that caused the Court Service and many Chambers. So I can easily imagine that Alex, although obviouly aware of Polical Correctness as he refers to it, thought that he was just being charming and appeciative when he made his comments. He was careful to talk about her picture rather than her which again, to me, shows that he was being appreciative rather than hitting on her. I am not saying that he didnt want to hit on her - but there is a difference between the two and in his comments I thought they were very tame.
women are on their seats waiting to get in a rage at the slightest compliment
I read an article by Sociologist Professor Bros that I only partly understood cos it was v.long + complicated, and they was saying that it’s like a return to the old honour system that ran upto i.e the 17th century. Under that system, you had to be v.careful to guard your honour, and if a bro insulted on you, even if slight+unintentional, you had to call him out for duel and meet him with pistols at dawn. The sociologist bros were saying that the new system is similar. When you are suffer a microagression, you have to play the part of a victim, and often greatly exaggerate the offence incurred. You then appeal to administrative bodies, media, and social network in order to secure a moral victory, and protect ur honours.
I ain’t saying they are right, but that is what they was saying + it is prob a better system than getting up early to shoot someone in the balls i spose. I hope that you find this summary more interesting than the actual article was.
Yeah! Or right, she should have changed her profile picture to i.e. a picture of 9/11, or a 5 year old girl, or i.e. the holocaust, so it made it look like he was a Terror-bro, or paedophile, or Nazi.
Weddings, yes; Facebook, go for it; Tinder definitely; random woman in a pub, take your chances; woman on footie forum, why not. Professional business context unless you know the person well and have a friendly relationship: no.
What part of that isn’t completely and utterly obvious common sense?
Look at you fishing for compliments
Well, I’m serious, GB. There’s an inference every now and again I’m some kind of ballbreaker, in an angry rage at poor old men, but it takes someone saying something pretty offensive to piss me off. This idea that women are on their seats waiting to get in a rage at the slightest compliment from a man is completely unfounded. Everyone likes being complimented when the intentions are good. What that guy said wasn’t a compliment.
I dont get this Lou, why wasnt it a compliment? Were her comments about the guys on FB compliments? He said it was a “stunning picture” and that she “definately win the prize for the best Linked In picture I have ever seen.” Sounds very complimentary to me.
Btw Coxford_lou, in all honesty, if someone were to pay me the same compliment, whether it be on Facebook, Linkedln or POF…I’d be chuffed to bits and in no way offended! (yeah ok I’m a chap, and nowhere near as attractive, or as young as her, and it’s not gonna happen…but I hope you understand where I’m coming from).
Exactly. And anyting we DON’T say is a form of code that seceretly says we want to shag them anyway.
Paranoia, we all have it. Even when we don’t have it, there is someone secretly saying we do.
On another note, look at Lou’s avatars. They alternate between a sexy cowgirl (possibly a reverse one? ;))and a stockinged leg wearing a high heeled shoe. Hmmmmmm Her’s are probably the most sexually provocative of anyone in the entire forum membership…It’s a stunning photo though, Lou!
dunno but If hairdo had responded to this bros comment with “wow thanks do you want to see my topless shots? xx” i guarantee this bro would have got a boner.
