# šŸŽ‚ Sotonians milestones **URL:** \ **Category:** Reasonably serious discussion\ **Created:** [14 September 2015 01:46 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262 "2015-09-14T01:46:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 23
**Author:** ![Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/polski_filip/32/75318_2.png) [@Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Polski_Filip)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:01 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/441 "2019-01-07T22:01:02Z")
On Christmas Day many of my family visited Mum in Hospital. I said goodbye. She kept fighting So we saw her again Boxing Day. And the day after. Tonight, in the taxi from the airport I knew something was wrong. She didnā€™t make it through tonight. Iā€™m broken. Fuck this place, I needed to have been there, it took that away from Mr. RIP Mum ---
**Author:** ![Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/goatboy/32/167_2.png) [@Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Goatboy)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:06 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/442 "2019-01-07T22:06:10Z")
Sorry to hear that Phil. I was in Bahrain when my Grandad died and I missed the funeral too. In the big scheme of things those couple of moments arenā€™t important. Itā€™s the good memories that stay with you. RIP ---
**Author:** ![Lets-B-Drinking](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/lets-b-drinking/32/1041_2.png) [@Lets-B-Drinking](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Lets-B-Drinking)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:15 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/443 "2019-01-07T22:15:56Z")
My mum died in July when I had taken a break from the hospital to go and watch the World Cup Final. Nothing you could have done, so donā€™t beat yourself up about it. ---
**Author:** ![pap](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/pap/32/74795_2.png) [@pap](https://www.sotonians.com/u/pap)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:21 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/444 "2019-01-07T22:21:39Z")
Gutted for you, Phil. ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:34 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/445 "2019-01-07T22:34:20Z")
Genuinely sorry to hear the news Phil Hold on to the good times. No one can take those away from you. :lou_sad: ---
**Author:** ![Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/polski_filip/32/75318_2.png) [@Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Polski_Filip)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:48 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/446 "2019-01-07T22:48:58Z")
Thanks guys ---
**Author:** ![Fowllyd](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/fowllyd/32/74248_2.png) [@Fowllyd](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Fowllyd)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 22:58 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/447 "2019-01-07T22:58:49Z")
Really sorry to hear that, Phil. ---
**Author:** ![Intiniki](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/intiniki/32/9_2.png) [@Intiniki](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Intiniki)\ **Post date:** [7 January 2019 23:19 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/448 "2019-01-07T23:19:28Z")
my condolences Phil. ---
**Author:** ![CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cb-saint/32/95251_2.png) [@CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/CB-Saint)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 07:04 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/449 "2019-01-08T07:04:50Z")
Sorry to hear that news DP. Shitty way to start the year. ---
**Author:** ![OzSaintDave](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/ozsaintdave/32/5477_2.png) [@OzSaintDave](https://www.sotonians.com/u/OzSaintDave)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 07:35 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/450 "2019-01-08T07:35:24Z")
Sorry DP, condolences. As I once said in song, ā€œdonā€™t let the memory fade awayā€ ---
**Author:** ![lifeintheslowlane](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/lifeintheslowlane/32/690_2.png) [@lifeintheslowlane](https://www.sotonians.com/u/lifeintheslowlane)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 08:39 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/451 "2019-01-08T08:39:34Z")
As others have saidā€¦being there is important to youā€¦thatā€™s all. I would have liked to be there for both my mum and my dad but events conspired to prevent it. You shouldnā€™t feel guilty itā€™s but a single moment in a lifetime shared. Condolences to you and you family Phil. ---
**Author:** ![Saint-or-sinner](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/saint-or-sinner/32/64280_2.png) [@Saint-or-sinner](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Saint-or-sinner)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 09:27 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/452 "2019-01-08T09:27:41Z")
Sorry to hear your bad news Phil. Plough through it, your mum would expect no less(shed a tear or two along the way as well). ---
**Author:** ![Nottarf-Krap](https://www.sotonians.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/n/8baadc/32.png) [@Nottarf-Krap](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Nottarf-Krap)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 09:46 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/453 "2019-01-08T09:46:56Z")
Itā€™s always a hard one losing a parent DP. As others have said remember the good times. My condolences to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![Rallyboy](https://www.sotonians.com/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/r/0ea827/32.png) [@Rallyboy](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Rallyboy)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 10:14 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/454 "2019-01-08T10:14:32Z")
Sorry to hear that Phil. Youā€™ve done nothing there you should regret - you shared goodbyes and then she went. Sadly that is how life operates, and many donā€™t even get that chance. What you do after being knocked down is what defines you. When life punches us in the face, most mothers want us to make them proud by picking ourselves up off the floor. With time, Iā€™m sure you will do both of those things. ---
**Author:** ![Numptyboi](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/numptyboi/32/25_2.png) [@Numptyboi](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Numptyboi)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 11:39 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/455 "2019-01-08T11:39:47Z")
Condolences, Phil. ---
**Author:** ![tigger](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/tigger/32/106_2.png) [@tigger](https://www.sotonians.com/u/tigger)\ **Post date:** [8 January 2019 18:16 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/456 "2019-01-08T18:16:02Z")
My condolences Phil, she knew how you felt about her ---
**Author:** ![Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/polski_filip/32/75318_2.png) [@Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Polski_Filip)\ **Post date:** [9 January 2019 17:10 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/457 "2019-01-09T17:10:47Z")
I cannot thank all of you enough for the kind words of the last couple of days. It is amazing, it really did help. We carry on, we will remember and somehow we have to now battle the move from here with the need to be back for the funeral, so in some ways we really have to step it up and get back into the saddle, I am so relieved I was able to say I loved her one last time, I missed that when my Father passed, which is one of those unforeseen heartbreaks of ex pat life. Time to get back to work. Thanks everyone ---
**Author:** ![Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/goatboy/32/167_2.png) [@Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Goatboy)\ **Post date:** [9 January 2019 17:32 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/458 "2019-01-09T17:32:44Z")
Can we go back to taking the piss as usual now? ---
**Author:** ![Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/polski_filip/32/75318_2.png) [@Polski\_Filip](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Polski_Filip)\ **Post date:** [9 January 2019 18:30 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/459 "2019-01-09T18:30:34Z")
After Iā€™ve explained why Padraig got the Team Europe Captaincy in the US ahead of other candidates šŸ˜‰ Note volunteer registration now open for Whistling Straights, no Iā€™m not going they are weird with their roles over there. ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [9 January 2019 19:17 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262/460 "2019-01-09T19:17:32Z")
Weird in what way? I know Iā€™m going to be sorry I asked and not for the reason I hopedā€¦ [Previous page](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262.md?page=22) [Next page](https://www.sotonians.com/t/sotonians-milestones/1262.md?page=24)