# On-line buddies - good or scary? **URL:** \ **Category:** The Sotonians position on..\ **Created:** [24 November 2017 18:04 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513 "2017-11-24T18:04:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 18:04 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/1 "2017-11-24T18:04:41Z")
Ok It ‘s teenage mutants’ birthday. unannounced Amazon parcel turns up with a relatively expensive condenser mic from an online friend - allegedly about 3 years older than son - they have been sharing music (playing live) for the last couple of years but have never met and has no idea of what he looks like. Son is fairly certain they haven’t shared addresses Son is uncomfortable and is going to return it and message the guy to say that’s generous but can’t accept it. - which I’m proud of. Given we share many personal details and even quite a few meet in the real world do you agree that Mrs C\_S going completely librarian is a fair reaction? _Poll ([view on site](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/1))_ * * * ---
**Author:** ![PhilippineSaint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/philippinesaint/32/3978_2.png) [@PhilippineSaint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/PhilippineSaint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 18:44 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/2 "2017-11-24T18:44:33Z")
if they have been friends for 3 years online how have they never exchanged some sort of picture ? instagram / facebook. Thats where the scary bit would come in. Why not? ---
**Author:** ![CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cb-saint/32/95251_2.png) [@CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/CB-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 18:51 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/3 "2017-11-24T18:51:53Z")
I’m a middle aged man grooming you all ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 18:55 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/4 "2017-11-24T18:55:28Z")
Exactly - it’s been avatars - bit like here. In fact a lot like here… ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 18:57 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/5 "2017-11-24T18:57:10Z")
What’s your budget for “gifts”? ---
**Author:** ![Intiniki](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/intiniki/32/9_2.png) [@Intiniki](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Intiniki)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 19:08 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/6 "2017-11-24T19:08:22Z")
Online friends can be perfectly fine people. I am still alive having met people who I’ve chatted to online. However, receiving gifts from them if you haven’t shared your details is worrying. I was just today reading police reports about girls being groomed online. It happens to boys too. Internet safety really needs to be drummed into children a lot, because what I am seeeing at work is very worrying. ---
**Author:** ![saintbletch](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/saintbletch/32/618_2.png) [@saintbletch](https://www.sotonians.com/u/saintbletch)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 19:45 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/7 "2017-11-24T19:45:21Z")
I’m a twenty year old woman letting you. ---
**Author:** ![Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/goatboy/32/167_2.png) [@Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Goatboy)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 20:09 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/8 "2017-11-24T20:09:32Z")
As long as he’s careful everything will be fine. ![](https://discourse-sotonians-uploads.s3.dualstack.eu-west-2.amazonaws.com/original/3X/3/c/3cec4ef3957ceeb0613796435d70bf715be6d423.jpeg) ---
**Author:** ![CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cb-saint/32/95251_2.png) [@CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/CB-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 20:59 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/9 "2017-11-24T20:59:26Z")
Your search history must be a thing of beauty ---
**Author:** ![CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cb-saint/32/95251_2.png) [@CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/CB-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 21:00 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/10 "2017-11-24T21:00:18Z")
Are you hot? ---
**Author:** ![CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cb-saint/32/95251_2.png) [@CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/CB-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 21:04 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/11 "2017-11-24T21:04:02Z")
In all seriousness, masquerade as your son. Invite the weirdo to the pre match drinks, and then tell pap he is a stuck up posh public school boy. Weirdo gets a hiding and you have complete deniability. ---
**Author:** ![CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cb-saint/32/95251_2.png) [@CB-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/CB-Saint)\ **Post date:** [24 November 2017 21:05 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/12 "2017-11-24T21:05:21Z")
Shit, fat finger down vote. Sorry ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 19:53 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/13 "2017-11-26T19:53:57Z")
Here you go - complete fuckwitery by Amazon. We can return the gift as unwanted and Amazon will credit my account with the value of the gift. They won’t allow it to be returned to the sender / their account to be reimbursed because of Data Protection rules - which is a cop-out pile of pants. I shall now be sending all of you 15 inch anal intruder vibrating butt plugs to your significant others safe in the knowledge that Amazon will not let you return the fuckers… Assuming you want to of course :lou_wink_2: ---
**Author:** ![Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/goatboy/32/167_2.png) [@Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Goatboy)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 20:17 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/14 "2017-11-26T20:17:50Z")
Do they do different colours? ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 20:32 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/15 "2017-11-26T20:32:28Z")
What would you / Mrs Goat prefer :lou_wink_2: ---
**Author:** ![Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/goatboy/32/167_2.png) [@Goatboy](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Goatboy)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 20:36 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/16 "2017-11-26T20:36:21Z")
Camo ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 20:49 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/17 "2017-11-26T20:49:10Z")
I didn’t see that coming… ---
**Author:** ![dinger](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/dinger/32/142_2.png) [@dinger](https://www.sotonians.com/u/dinger)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 21:10 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/18 "2017-11-26T21:10:16Z")
Keep the stuff. Ditch the friend. ---
**Author:** ![Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/cobham-saint/32/99252_2.png) [@Cobham-Saint](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Cobham-Saint)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 21:24 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/19 "2017-11-26T21:24:37Z")
Fair point @dinger , but he knows where we live…Teenage Mutant is 99.99999% sure he didn’t pass on our address. Scary. Anyway, advice on Mums Net is to ask for bank details, if none are forthcoming tell bloke we’ll make a donation to charidee… ---
**Author:** ![Fatso](https://www.sotonians.com/user_avatar/www.sotonians.com/fatso/32/18_2.png) [@Fatso](https://www.sotonians.com/u/Fatso)\ **Post date:** [26 November 2017 21:32 UTC](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513/20 "2017-11-26T21:32:34Z")
So you had such little faith in the quality advice you’d get from sotonians that you also posted on mums net? Well fuck you! [Next page](https://www.sotonians.com/t/on-line-buddies-good-or-scary/1513.md?page=2)